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Deep transformational support to help you end passivity, stop pleasing others and start living your own life.
You are here because...
❌ You’ve spent your whole life being the "nice guy." Always helpful, always agreeable—but deep down, you feel invisible, like no one truly sees or values you.
❌ You overthink everything. You replay conversations, hesitate to speak up, and second-guess yourself—afraid of rejection, conflict, or being "too much."
❌ You feel stuck while others move forward. You see other men leading, thriving, taking risks… while you stay in the background, waiting for something to change.
❌ You’re tired of being overlooked. In friendships, dating, and work—you hold yourself back while others step up. You know you’re capable of more, but something stops you.
❌ Your relationships feel one-sided or toxic. You give, compromise, and try to make things work—only to be walked over, taken for granted, or left feeling drained.
❌ You crave confidence, respect, and independence. You want to set boundaries without guilt. Speak up without fear. Walk into any room and own your presence.
If this sounds like you, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Let's talk and create a real plan for change.
WHAT I HELP MY CLIENTS WITH
Here’s what I can help you with to break free, take control, and create a life that feels fully yours:
☑️ Break free from Nice Guy Syndrome & people-pleasing – Stop shape-shifting to gain approval and start living as your true self.
☑️ Set boundaries and handle conflict with confidence – No more being a pushover. Learn to assert yourself with strength and clarity.
☑️ Build emotional resilience and rock-solid self-trust – Develop the inner confidence to handle any challenge life throws your way.
☑️ Overcome fear of rejection & social anxiety – Navigate conversations, awkward moments, and rejection with confidence and ease.
☑️ Lead in dating, relationships, and life with bold confidence – Escape chronic passivity and take courageous action toward the connections and life you want.
☑️ Find clarity in your purpose, mission, and future direction – Stop drifting and start creating a life that feels meaningful and aligned with your values.
☑️ Create financial & personal independence through a one-person business – Future-proof yourself with an online income that reflects your skills, passions, and authentic creativity.
My Guidance Framework: The R.E.A.L. Method™
Real change doesn’t happen overnight—it happens step by step. My R.E.A.L. Method™ is designed to help you break free from negative cycles, build emotional strength, and take bold, strategic action that creates lasting confidence.
Release
break free from negative patterns
Most men don’t realize they’re trapped in approval-seeking loops—always playing small, seeking validation, and avoiding discomfort. We’ll uncover the hidden patterns that keep you passive, disconnected, and stuck in self-doubt.
Expand
Build Unshakeable Emotional Resilience
What if rejection didn’t shake you? What if you could handle pressure, setbacks, and criticism without crumbling? You’ll build emotional strength so unshakable that nothing and no one can throw you off your path.
Align
Create a clear and Strong Core Identity
No more shape-shifting to fit in. You’ll define who you are and what you stand for—so you can walk into any room with confidence and presence. You won’t just act confident—you’ll be a man who owns himself fully.
Lead
TAKE BOLD, consistent ACTION
Confidence isn’t something you wait for—it’s something you build through action. You’ll be challenged every week to step up, take risks, and embody real leadership in your life. No more hesitation. No more waiting. Just bold, decisive action.
HOW IT WORKS
I have two simple options for working with me based on your current needs and circumstances.
1️⃣ single clarity session
for those ready for a breakthrough
A single session with me is like months of self-help compressed into 90 minutes. You’ll leave with deep clarity, a custom strategy, and the exact next steps to move forward.
✅ 90-minute private Zoom session
✅ Personalized tailored to your situation
✅ Deep insights, mindset shifts & action steps
✅ No long-term commitment—just clarity & breakthroughs
"Hey Oliver, I wanted to thank you again for the call. You helped me unravel my needs and problems and gave me actionable advice on how to tackle them. I’ll definitely benefit from the breakdown of procrastination—it’s what I struggle with most. It was a fulfilling chat, and I’ll keep you posted on my progress!" — Carl Schulz
💰 Investment: $250
💡 Ready to take action? Every day you wait, you stay stuck. If you're ready to break free, let's get to work—starting now.
2️⃣ Free Exploration Call
Not sure? Let’s talk FOR FREE.
If you think you might need a more long term solution, let's jump on a free call and explore our options.
☑️ Free 20-30 min call to explore your challenges & goals
☑️ A chance to see if my work is the right fit for you.
☑️ If it makes sense, I’ll recommend a custom guidance plan.
☑️ No pressure—just an honest conversation
💰 Investment: $0
💡 You’ve been thinking about change long enough. Let’s get on a call and create a real plan—no pressure, just clarity.
WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY
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Why I Do This Work
I’m Oliver, a psychotherapeutically trained coach with over 4 years of experience coaching 150+ men at live retreats and online.
I wasn’t born confident. I was the sensitive kid who got bullied.
I was the socially awkward guy who overthought every conversation.
I eventually became the "nice guy" who chased validation and lost himself in the process.
But I refused to stay there.
Through deep self-work, I have been able to:
- Conquer anxiety that I've had since childhood.
- Overcome chronic people-pleasing (also had since childhood).
- End my battle with emotional eating (and again) and got into the best shape of my life at 32.
- Build a £10,000 per month one person business from scratch with ZERO investment, ad spend or other assistance.
- Go from shy, socially awkward and sexually frustrated to having a flourishing social life and an active dating life.
- Leave the UK and travel the world running my business from my laptop.
I share this not to brag, but to show you that real transformation is possible.
I believe that what one man can do, another man can do.
If I can do it, so can you.
Faq
Nope. If you resonate with my content, I work with your regardless of gender and sexual orientation. I specialise in working with men but I can adapt my methods to suit you.
The price for the single clarity session is $250 but the cost of ongoing work together depends on a range of factors. But it will be in the four figure range so be prepared for that before booking a free call with me.
Therapy tends to focus on long term, past-focused work that's directed by you. A therapist is unlikely to make recommendations or direct the interaction, often allowing you to go through your own process. This can be very valuable. However, I am not a therapist and I do not focus heavily on the past. I am a guide here to focus on the present and the future to create lasting and meaningful change. That being said, the responsibility for change whether it's coaching or therapy ... is squarely on your shoulders.
I have some clients who see me once every fortnight but the majority of my clients see me on a weekly basis. I recommend, at a minimum, seeing me every 2 weeks to maintain momentum and to stay engaged in your personal growth journey.
My sessions are 60 minutes. However, there are certain sessions where we go much deeper than usual. In these cases I allow for 90 minutes.
I trained as a person-centred (humanistic) counsellor for three years. I first kicked off my career helping people as a personal trainer when I was 18. My niche was always psychology, mindset and behaviour change. I have self-taught in shadow work, therapy, self-development and other topics since then. In terms of formal trainining (with letters next to my name) I do not formally have any. My expertise comes from lived experienced applying my teaching principles to my own life and those of my clients.
I have been working as a men's self-development coach for around 4 years at this point. Prior to that I was a personal trainer for over 7 years. I think in total I've worked with over 300 people privately. It's mad.